Ever have a friend who could make you laugh with a simple act that helped you to shift a heavy situation into a buoyant cloud, as if to say so what’s next, we can handle this with a laughter. To me those special souls, who can bring a little reverie into our lives are really secret superheroes. They walk with a lightness of being that can find the humor beneath conflict and within moments of potential tragedy bring the gift of a good attitude with an irrepressible understanding that this too will pass, even faster with a little bit of laughter.
We can face almost any situation with a little humor added to lift us out of the darkness, giving us hope to press onward. Sometimes, we call this dark humor because it steals the darkness using it as a prop to laugh, freeing us from the clutches of depression and fear. We can’t always laugh away our problems, but we stand stronger by letting laughter lift our spirits to continue working through our misery.
When we think of silliness, children often come to mind, because they are naturally gifted in this special art of living. Children seem to understand that life is meant to be enjoyed and laughter is one the best things to enjoy. We often lose this perspective unfortunately, losing our natural gift of lighthearted humor because we forget to practice the art of silliness.
Those who have children may know the special magic that can make discipline easier through the use of a little silliness. “Oh my god, did that carpet just asked to be feed? Really? Maybe we should discuss a feeding schedule because I’d rather not give it liquids”. Instead of yelling that food and drink has made its way onto the carpet, yet again. A little silliness can lift our message to make it through to those we love, when yelling and anger will only close them off from our message and worst, from each other.
I am a firm believer in the power of silliness to remedy challenges, lift spirits, having unexpected fun in boring activities and tasks. We don’t need to be children to take advantage of a little bit of fun. Think of it as a non-fattening sugar that we can add to our lives with mindful measure to invite joy and laughter into our days.
Being silly, of course has its place, sometimes being silly can invoke a rath we’d not meant too. This can happen when those we are with are not in the mood to be distracted, the pressure of their focus has become too serious to be deflected. In those moments we can wait until they have ventured into a better place of relaxation to share our unique perspective. Humor is unique to everyone, what one person finds funny might not tickle another. That’s ok, when one person laughs the sound of their laughter alone can lift another, even if the joke did not.
The important part is not that we walk around as clowns to entertain others, but rather that we find what lightens our spirits as we walk our own path. We can entertain ourselves lifting our own spirits which can be a greater gift to others, as our presences is what matters. When we are happy, in a lighter mood, we tend to be more open to others, more available to assist and be glad in doing so.
Cultivating an inner silliness takes practice, because we must discover what genuinely sparks laughter, joy and levity in ourselves. It’s a subtle awareness that opens our hearts to jump into innocent play without fear of looking a fool, without suppression through judgment. It happens as we grant inner permission to explore our own spirits, celebrating life’s joy through what we find liberating by ticking us within.
We can only imagine what sort of fun can erupt within us once we’ve unleashed our inner silly. Suddenly, we are resilient to other’s rudeness, or the creeping boredom that silently stalks our afternoon of monotonous tasks. We find freedom through this attitude, it’s presence may avail without outward belly laughter, simply through the quite inner lingering of perspective.
As I said, silliness is a secret superpower, granting those who have it, the skillful ability to be an agent of light, both to themselves and others. We can find such magic through our shared lau