Ever have a friend who could make you laugh with a simple act that helped you to shift a heavy situation into a buoyant cloud, as if to say so what’s next, we can handle this with a laughter. To me those special souls, who can bring a little reverie into our lives are really secret superheroes. They walk with a lightness of being that can find the humor beneath conflict and within moments of potential tragedy bring the gift of a good attitude with an irrepressible understanding that this too will pass, even faster with a little bit of laughter.
We can face almost any situation with a little humor added to lift us out of the darkness, giving us hope to press onward. Sometimes, we call this dark humor because it steals the darkness using it as a prop to laugh, freeing us from the clutches of depression and fear. We can’t always laugh away our problems, but we stand stronger by letting laughter lift our spirits to continue working through our misery.
When we think of silliness, children often come to mind, because they are naturally gifted in this special art of living. Children seem to understand that life is meant to be enjoyed and laughter is one the best things to enjoy. We often lose this perspective unfortunately, losing our natural gift of lighthearted humor because we forget to practice the art of silliness.
Those who have children may know the special magic that can make discipline easier through the use of a little silliness. “Oh my god, did that carpet just asked to be feed? Really? Maybe we should discuss a feeding schedule because I’d rather not give it liquids”. Instead of yelling that food and drink has made its way onto the carpet, yet again. A little silliness can lift our message to make it through to those we love, when yelling and anger will only close them off from our message and worst, from each other.
I am a firm believer in the power of silliness to remedy challenges, lift spirits, having unexpected fun in boring activities and tasks. We don’t need to be children to take advantage of a little bit of fun. Think of it as a non-fattening sugar that we can add to our lives with mindful measure to invite joy and laughter into our days.
Being silly, of course has its place, sometimes being silly can invoke a rath we’d not meant too. This can happen when those we are with are not in the mood to be distracted, the pressure of their focus has become too serious to be deflected. In those moments we can wait until they have ventured into a better place of relaxation to share our unique perspective. Humor is unique to everyone, what one person finds funny might not tickle another. That’s ok, when one person laughs the sound of their laughter alone can lift another, even if the joke did not.
The important part is not that we walk around as clowns to entertain others, but rather that we find what lightens our spirits as we walk our own path. We can entertain ourselves lifting our own spirits which can be a greater gift to others, as our presences is what matters. When we are happy, in a lighter mood, we tend to be more open to others, more available to assist and be glad in doing so.
Cultivating an inner silliness takes practice, because we must discover what genuinely sparks laughter, joy and levity in ourselves. It’s a subtle awareness that opens our hearts to jump into innocent play without fear of looking a fool, without suppression through judgment. It happens as we grant inner permission to explore our own spirits, celebrating life’s joy through what we find liberating by ticking us within.
We can only imagine what sort of fun can erupt within us once we’ve unleashed our inner silly. Suddenly, we are resilient to other’s rudeness, or the creeping boredom that silently stalks our afternoon of monotonous tasks. We find freedom through this attitude, it’s presence may avail without outward belly laughter, simply through the quite inner lingering of perspective.
As I said, silliness is a secret superpower, granting those who have it, the skillful ability to be an agent of light, both to themselves and others. We can find such magic through our shared laughter. Laughter binds us together in a commonplace of shared joy and stressless release. Our lives are often too serious with all the heavy aspects of the current struggles facing our world. We can ease our pressures in many ways, but nothing is as simple and wholesome as laughter.
Getting in touch with our inner silly can be encouraged by practicing the art of laughter. We can do this by watching comedies, reading humorous books, spending time with others who have the gift and letting it rub off onto us. We can also invoke it through looking at what seems humorous to us, humans, animals and especially babies have a funny way of making us laugh, simply by watching them. This doesn’t mean to openly laugh at another by making fun of them, but rather to join them in their life journey by sharing in the laughter of personal expressions with appreciation.
When we find that we no longer have an easy time laughing, it reflects a deeper issue within us, a part of our spirit has darkened. Some of us are naturally more serious, but those individuals still have a sense of humor. It’s when we no longer laugh, no longer find anything funny that we are being shown we may be out of balance. This can happen when we’ve spent a prolonged period of time under strain, suppressed emotionally, or have a lack of inter-relational exchanges with others. Taking the time to access where we are, taking an inner reading as to where we are within the spectrum of ourselves, helps us to regain balance by recognizing, if we are out of sorts.
We all have moments when we are not feeling light, joyous, silly or ready to be entertained by life’s experiences. That’s okay, so long as we are not harboring ourselves in these enclaves of seriousness and potential depression. Recognizing that we have the potential to shift ourselves upwards through a good dose of laughter can relieve our minds from being myopic, often assisting us to gain a fresh perspective that invites change.
I invite you to take an inner inventory today, measuring your ability to laugh, finding joy in the unexpected events of the day. Invoking the spirit of the inner child who knows the magic power of silliness to lift us higher than any other outside source. Be willing to embrace a little innocent mischief, a little folly and ridiculousness to charge the inner batteries with light, laughter, amusement to find joy and fun in life’s expression. Remembering, when we embrace our laughter, it has the power to lift all our spirits and that’s the best reason.