Integrating Wholeness


There are many activities that help us to bridge our experiences with our understanding. As we go through our days and experience different things, we come into a place within ourselves, if we are lucky that allows us to decompress and digest the happenings of our days. This might be time spent in a garden, buried in a good book, or quietly drinking tea, taking time to rest in reflection offers a moment to anchor ourselves. With this centering point, we begin naturally to integrate our experiences, especially when we allow the freedom to be openly honest with ourselves about our experiences.


When we do not take the time to process our experiences fully, it creates the possibility of a dormant mind-field that at any future time could implode to the detriment of ourselves or others. We have seen how certain individuals, who have not been able to integrate their experiences well, have then acted upon those raw unprocessed emotions causing harm to others, often including themselves. This is a hard reality to witness, especially when the potential for integrative healing is possible for everyone.


We are learning as a society, as we learn as individuals to do what is best to achieve health and harmony. We may not be able to avoid the circumstances that brings us into a state of distress, stretching us into new growth phases in our lives. Yet, each of these experiences offers us insights into ourselves, as well as, insight into what we are learning about the world. It all reflects back to the essence of what we are cultivating within ourselves.


How we perceive and respond is always up to us. We can choose to be supporters, healers, and advocates for what we know to be just and good. We can practice kindness within our own communities, teaching others to walk in harmony and compassion by example. We can be the change we want to see in the world as Gandhi famously taught, simply by being an example of it.


We become these great beings of goodness not by wishing to be it. It happens through compassionate awareness, tending our growth through measured remembrance that we are all learning. We must allow ourselves the protection of learning compassionately, accepting the potential mistakes ahead of time to welcome a true experience. Then our experiences become the building blocks we dissolve into understanding ourselves, and others.


We may not enjoy every experience. Still we are learning through our dislikes, we are equally learning what we value, what we desire and what matters most to us. Every experience offers us insights into ourselves. By taking time to enjoy a beloved pastime, we can sometimes ease ourselves into reflection, affording insights into what is just beneath the surface, hidden from us consciously. Discovering what is true within anchors our reactions, because understanding ourselves leads to confidence in our self-knowledge.


Using methods to integrate our emotions before we immediately respond can save us from making a delicate situations worst. As we learn to become aware of ourselves beyond our immediate feelings, we become comfortable seeing the deeper levels of ourselves, making it easier to relate to others. Spending time in activities that are enjoyable and equally distracting often allow an inner equilibrium to return to this state of self-reflection.


We can find more than tranquility when we spend time in contemplation and reflection. We learn to untangling our inner emotional strings, unhooking misunderstandings, and releasing all else, to uncover the essence of ourselves, a reflection of us in the experience. This glimpse of ourselves can lead us back to gentle awareness of our inner truth. We can support ourselves in the experience even after its ends by processing what it meant to us and how we feel about it now.


Honestly reflection of our emotions doesn’t mean judging them, quite the opposite, it means to witness them within our process. We acknowledge emotions to gain insight, honoring them leads to peace. Our witnessing consciousness is the compassionate presence that offers rest. Sometimes, just being still can offer an insightful understanding into our experience. Our integration unfolds through the tenderness with which we offer ourselves attention.